“Now keep looking at this unpleasant situation or person until you realize that it isn’t they that are causing the negative emotions. They are just going their way, being themselves, doing their thing whether right or wrong, good or bad. It is your computer that, thanks to your programming,
Before I continue down the winding road of my journey through Hazelden and then becoming a house husband, I want to share my thoughts on the patterns of thinking and behaviors that have made me so resilient, at least in the eyes of people like my friend Ann Masten (a
Jesuit priest Anthony de Mello reminds us to focus on the magic in front of us: "Think of yourself in a concert hall listening to the strains of the sweetest music when you suddenly remember that you forgot to lock your car. You are anxious about the car, you